What else could you ever need?
This week's topic is more serious than many of the other things I've discussed. Today, I want to share a book that has opened my eyes to the realities of self-harm, especially among teenagers and survivors of abuse. This week, I want to introduce Scars, by Cheryl Rainfield. Rainfield's book focuses on a sixteen-year-old girl named Kendra. The cover of the book as well as its title make it clear that Kendra cuts herself, and within the first few pages, this book makes the reader aware that Kendra is a survivor of sexual abuse. Kendra has suppressed her memory of her abuser's identity, but the trauma of the abuse and her continued terror that her abuser will come back and kill her if she tells continually haunt her. She tries to get rid of this fear and anguish through her artwork, but at times art isn't enough. In moments of extreme panic or anger, Kendra's only source of relief is the weight of the utility blade in her hand, the sharp pain as it slices through her skin, and the trickles of warm blood that immediately appear on her arm. This has been her coping mechanism for months, and it genuinely helps her let out emotion before she explodes. She needs it to survive. When Kendra finally tells her therapist, Carolyn, even Carolyn understands that for the time being, Kendra needs to be able to cut herself in order to bear her agony. Carolyn helps her (again, for the time being) cut herself in a safer way: using disinfectant on both her arm and the blade, carefully bandaging her up, and making it clear that she doesn't want Kendra to hurt herself and intends to help Kendra move to safer, healthier ways of expressing her emotion. She also informs Kendra's parents (as she is legally and morally bound to do). Eventually this strategy works, and Kendra's self-harm is drastically reduced through her therapist's careful work and patience. There's much more to the story than this, particularly in the way of Kendra's struggle to identify and face her abuser. However, I wanted to focus on the self-abuse aspect because I felt that this perspective might speak to middle and high schoolers that I would teach in the future. Even if they have not been abused, they might hurt themselves or be tempted to do so, so I thought it would be important to introduce a work those students could identify with and feel comforted by. I also think that the way Kendra's therapist handled her self-abuse added to my own understanding of the subject, and it could certainly be useful for students with friends who cut to see how the issue can be dealt with and how much love and support those who cut themselves need. There are several reasons to introduce Rainfield's Scars to a classroom, but the ones above are, I feel, the most pertinent. It offers teachers a chance to educate their class on resources and alternatives available to them if they need someone. At this point, I want to provide some of those resources in this blog so that anyone who wants to read this book or is struggling with any of the issues I mentioned knows what help is out there. One of the biggest organizations dedicated to helping those who self-harm is To Write Love On Her Arms (TWLOHA). I have provided the link to their blog below so that anyone interested in what they do can easily access it and learn as much as I have. Below that link are a few links to other websites dedicated to helping those in need. I encourage you to visit all these sites and know what they have to offer in case (heaven forbid) you or someone you know ever needs to see it. Help is out there, and those who feel cutting themselves provides the only relief they can get need this help more than anyone else. Please visit these links and pass them along. http://twloha.com/ http://selfinjury.com/ http://hopeline.com/ http://www.selfinjuryfoundation.org/ http://www.sioutreach.org/
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